Dear Dan Turner,
In less than 20 minutes you can strangle a person, and feel the life slip through your hands.
In 20 minutes you can provide CPR while waiting for an ambulance to arrive
In 20 minutes you can take a drive drunk, and end up smashing into the car of a family just trying to make it home after a long day.
In 20 minutes you can call a cab and wait to get home safely.
In 2o minutes you can take a person’s wallet and be across town before anyone knows.
In 20 minutes you can by a meal for a starving family.
In twenty minutes you can walk into a building armed and claim life after life after life.
In twenty minutes you can have a heartfelt conversation that turns a person’s life around
You see, when time actually matters, 20 minutes is a lot of it. It’s a lot of time to think, to plan, to even feel hesitation and remorse. It’s a lot of time to consider your morals, your values, and decisions.
In short, it only takes 20 minutes to define you.
In those 20 minutes of action, your son could have chosen to bring that girl inside, could have chosen to cover her up and help her get to safety. He could have called one of her friends or her family to pick her up so she could be safe at home.
Your son did not do that.
Instead, your son raped her. In those 20 minutes, your son’s character was defined, not as one who respects others, not as a good person willing to act in the best interest of others, but as a person willing to commit a horrific act if he thinks he can get away with it.
And in less than twenty minutes, you made the statement that let us know where his lack of regard for others came from. Your son brutalized a woman, and you are asking us to dismiss that. We now know why he didn’t think twice about his decisions. We now know why he did not act like the decent person you pretend him to be. We now know why he did not choose to protect this school mate as a real upstanding citizen would. In your words, you showed the kind of petty entitlement and permissiveness that taught him to do whatever he wants, because the people he hurts just won’t matter to you so they should not matter to him.
20 minutes is a lot of time.
20 minutes is enough time to define a person.
I would write more, but I only had twenty minutes to compose this post.